Top Discipline Mistakes Teachers Make
It was a good 10 minutes since Deborah had entered the classroom and there was no sign of the children dialing down.
Even her instructions and protests to get the children to be quiet were only faintly heard — such was the noise the grade 3 students made.
Have you had to counter any such situation? What do you think Deborah did wrongly here?
If you think she could not control the class because she was short of resources, know that Deborah had all the tools.
If you think she could not control the class because she was short of resources, know that Deborah had all the tools and the
temperament to handle the class. The mistake she made was to address the class as a whole. Yes, you need to try and address children one at a time, and in unconventional ways,
to have their attention. You would always find one student or a select few initiating the troublemaking process in your class. The rest of the children, maybe in clusters,
would essentially be following these initiators. So, to make the entire class stop causing trouble, catch hold of those initiators and teach them how to behave rather than
shouting to the entire class. Make sure you find enough leverage to make the students not want to repeat the encounter with you. By finding even one person pulled out,
the rest of the class will slow down.
So when you get down to restrict children, what is the first step you take? Ask questions? Well, that would be another mistake. Asking questions as a measure to bring
discipline could mean opening yourself to manipulation through unwanted discussions. For instance, if you ask the children in your class to do a certain task and someone
wanders into doing something else instead, you might ask why he/she is indulging in something other than that asked for. Not all children respond positively to such questions.
Some might even rebel. To avoid such instances, you could refrain from asking questions and instead make statements, reminding what he/she is losing by not performing the task like the others in the class. This might not always put an end to the problem, but you will at least be reinforcing the learning outcome to the children.
Another very common mistake teachers make is to warn children when they don’t listen in the class. Think about it — has warning children ever worked out for you?
Many teachers resort to warning children as a measure to make them take them seriously. But it backfires more often than not. When enquired, a few teachers claimed that they get a better control of the class when they don’t give warnings to the children. Why don’t you, too, try to jump to introducing the consequence, directly? The next time a child disturbs your class, rather than warning him/her to be quiet, inform him/her what wrong he/she is doing and, let us say, ask him/her to meet you after the period. How you deal with the child after the period could be driven based on his/her response to your clarification in the class.
To be able to avoid any kinds of mistakes in class, the one thing you must be prepared with is a concrete plan for the lesson you want to teach in the class.
More than half of the discipline issues arise in the time when children don’t have anything meaningful to do. Many teachers walk into a class without any preparation,
anticipating to have a spontaneous session but fail to grab children’s attention just because they cannot keep them engaged. Teachers need to make a tight plan to ensure
that every student in his/her class is kept active throughout the period. Poor behaviour, in many cases, is the outcome of children not feeling competent, and, as a result, feeling bored or restless. Work towards keeping them meaningfully engaged at all times, and be assured of a positive response from them.
There would be times when you might find it difficult to control children despite not committing any mistakes in the class. How can you get them to take you seriously then?
Let us say a child does not say anything but expresses indifference to a task through body language. In such a case, you could initiate the task and ask him/her to join you in
performing it. Once he/she realises that the task is actually interesting, he/she will be on his/her own. And then, if you suspect that a child is secretly indulging in some mischief in the class, don’t yell at him/her but simply walk up to him/her and stand behind him/her till the time he/she realises that you have taken notice. And while you do this, ensure not to stop what you were doing in the class. Once the child knows that you are onto him/her, he/she might avoid repeating the mischief.
The most popular of the mistakes that teachers make in class is to, voluntarily or involuntarily, come off somewhat like a boss to children.
It is quite usual for children to get arrogant or restless to cover up their boredom. And if they dislike something, they tend to react candidly.
But that does not mean teachers can respond to them in the same way. Patience and workarounds are necessary to get a child to cooperate with you.
Be a good friend rather than instructing the children all the time. When someone comes to you with a question, you may choose to kneel down to take yourself to his/her
height to make him/her feel more comfortable. You may even occasionally display affection (in the form of a hug, pat, or clap) as a sign of recognizing the children who
showcase positive behaviour or even those who correct themselves.
Building Social Skills in Children
If children can be associated with an attribute that comes naturally to them, it has to be innocence.
All the other qualities that you might find in a child should have been inherited from the people around him/her. Socialisation is what shapes an individual’s
character. So it is all the more necessary to establish social skills early in childhood. Would you not like it if your child perfects the art of entertaining guests?
Social skills encompass a wide run.
If children can be associated with an attribute that comes naturally to them, it has to be innocence. All the other qualities
that you might find in a child should have been inherited from the people around him/her. Socialisation is what shapes an individual’s character.
So it is all the more necessary to establish social skills early in childhood. Would you not like it if your child perfects the art of entertaining guests?
Social skills encompass a wide range of behaviours that are appropriate and effective in situations of social interaction. To help children develop social skills,
you should get them to indulge in social activities. You may start by giving them small tasks such as picking vessels for you in the kitchen, keeping the classroom
blackboard clean before the beginning of a period, helping siblings/classmates with homework, etc. that will get them to learn to obey and follow instructions.
These kinds of tasks will also help children understand that helping others is a good thing. But then, what is more important is to praise their work.
That will encourage them to do more of such work, thus making them participative, as well.
As much as it is important to be encouraged, children must also feel confident to be able to sustain their success. To make children feel confident and get comfortable with people,
we need to teach them social skills very early in their life, so that they learn to interact and communicate effectively.
Make it a practice to indulge in open conversations with your child/children in your class every day, so that he/she/they realise(s) that you are approachable, no matter what. And, while you do that, you could teach him/her/them a whole spectrum of skills — to participate, share, cooperate, be patient, listen, help others, accept differences, be polite, be assertive, negotiate, apologise, etc. One of the tried-and-tested methods to get children to inculcate these skills is for us to model them at different scenarios. Another way you could achieve this is by sharing stories, screening movies, or engaging children in activities that model the various social skills.
When encouraged, children are pumped up to do some good work. That is the time for you to gradually introduce them to empathy.
How do you react when a child expresses anger or disrespect? Studies indicate that children whose emotional needs are fulfilled tend to react less aggressively.
However, we must remember to also teach children not to demand things unless essential. How would they know what is essential and what is not? Well, it is up to us,
the caregivers, to establish the rules for them in a way acceptable to them and also model good judgment. And then, when children realise that they can bank on their caregivers for physical and emotional support, they develop the tendency to show sympathy to others and help them cope with distress. You could even make your child realise how similar he/she is with the other people around him/her. Kindle the participative nature of your child to get him/her to indulge in group activities and sports, and thus make a lot of friends. It is believed that children develop empathy for people they can easily associate with. Also, once your child starts focusing on others, he/she will be less self-conscious. This will wipe off whatever fear he/she may have. Do get your child to develop the habit of apologising and appreciating, as and when required. You can induct these traits to him/her by practising them yourself. 4-year-old Ashwin learned a few swear words and started using them with his father, whenever the father refused his demands. Should the child be encouraged or corrected for such behaviour? Corrected, of course, isn’t it? Helping children cultivate self-control is as important as feeling empathy for others. Set rules and expectations at home/in the class that would help children become disciplined, and that is enough for them to gradually develop self-control. However, to be able to sustain that, you may have to keep ‘discipline’ interesting for your child. Evolve your strategies as the child grows, to keep him/her interested. You may even recite stories of children whose discipline helped them succeed in their ambitions. It is believed that children with self-control respond to adverse situations with maturity, while the impulsive ones come up with taunts that could hurt the people around them.
A number of factors affect the development of social skills in children. Parenting style and relationship with siblings
play very important roles in setting example for children to replicate outside. Children brought up in joint families get to share more than those
growing up in nuclear families. So, it becomes necessary for the parents in nuclear families to build situations to encourage their children to inculcate the habit of sharing.
It is important for children to be attached to someone at home so that they do not find it difficult to adjust to the complex social system of their school.
At school, and also at home, children need to be provided with ample opportunities to express by writing stories, playing, singing songs, painting, etc.
You can plan these as group activities so that children can form groups and coordinate to produce/present something of their choice. The more you keep children in groups,
the better they will adapt to sharing and caring for others. When your child is at home, ensure to spend a lot of time with him/her,
indulging in activities with him/her. Take him/her to fairs, exhibitions, movies, playgrounds — that will give him/her opportunities
to find new interests and make new friends. And if you are a teacher, dedicate as much individual time as possible for each child in your class.